Being Alone VS Being Lonely


 
My ideal Friday afternoon is waking up by 10am and getting ready to head out to the farmers’ market in Business Bay, where I get my weekly groceries. I then indulge in a great cup of coffee and a sandwich from Baker and Spice. I enjoy doing these things by myself, as spending time alone is pretty high up on my list of priorities. I guess I would describe myself as an introvert who enjoys spending time alone, but I understand that’s not for everyone. I know so many people that dread spending any time by themselves let alone an entire day. That is why I hope to make you realise the difference between being alone and being lonely. As a person who genuinely enjoys spending time alone, I’ve come up with some really great reasons why you should embrace this time by yourself.
 
1. DO SOMETHING FUN OR PRODUCTIVE
We all have those self-improvement goals that we have been hanging onto for the longest time, such as attending that first yoga class, enjoying a painting or cooking class, or using that spa voucher that was gifted to you on your birthday. Whether you’re meeting new people in a hot sweaty yoga room or simply doing something that’s good for your well-being, make sure to have fun and really embrace this time by yourself. This way when you think of alone time you automatically think of happy, fun and exciting thoughts as compared to being bored or even lonely.
 
2. DON’T BE AFRAID TO BE SELFISH
Sometimes it’s okay to put yourself first and think about what you should do for yourself. By putting yourself first you don’t have to compromise on what to do and the decision is always yours. This is a great way to realise that you can actually do things by yourself, be independent and enjoy life just as much as you would in a big group of friends. For some of us it may be challenging initially, but in the long run, it is definitely worth it.
 
3. BE PRESENT AND LIVE RIGHT NOW
As millennials, we constantly face the struggle of not being able to be away from our phone or falling victim to FOMO. That’s why you should always make a conscious effort to unplug from technology and just see how much time and space you have for all the other cool things in your life. Learn to be in the moment and stop scrolling through Instagram during your lunch break!
 
4. INDULGE IN THINGS THAT MAKE YOU HAPPY
Alone time can be perfect for indulging in all your favourite TV shows, catching up on your books, doodling away or even starting that blog you have been thinking about since the start of the New Year. This is the time to do all the things that you love and wish to do, without having to worry about what anyone else wants or thinks.
 
5. DO SOMETHING OUTSIDE YOUR COMFORT ZONE
Putting yourself out there is hard, challenging, scary and, yes, weird! But those are just the initial five seconds you feel when you start out. When you push past all these feelings and actually let go of all your insecurities and doubts you learn to just experience the moment and all that it has to offer. I would suggest something as simple as going to a coffee shop and reading a book, or going to Jam Jar to paint. Stop worrying about what other people will think and just do want you want to do.

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